Yesterday I had the honor to speak at an inspiring panel on gender equality organized by Make Sense Mexico.
What started as a conversation on how to empower women and have their voices heard became an interesting social experiment. One of the key takeaways of the conference for me was not on equality but on violence.
For over three years now I have independently produced my third documentary project #SermujerLatinoamerica and mentored soul-driven female entrepreneurs to increase their social impact.
Along the way I found myself entering a new journey of mindset and structural violence deconstruction and sharing with my audiences, colleagues and friends questions, opening paths, programs, spaces for them to do the same. We are lately bombarded by women empowerment messages from coaches, healers, institutions, governments. We are often asked as women to “rise up”, to “fight for equality”, to “push through” gender violence as it is a simple heroic thing. It is not.
Yesterday I felt there is so much work to be done to understand the root of violence for can be oblivious to it. We can tend to disregard violence and romanticize other systems of beliefs: equality, empowerment, peace. I find that dangerous in the business and academic world, in the street protests and the marketing of spiritual healing. Learning the root of violence will makes us able to free ourselves from any type of political, economic, religious and ideological system that promote inequality in some sort of way.
Learning the root of violence can invite us to look at our conscious beliefs and decisions, are we pursuing equality because according to X, Y, Z experts that is “the solution”? Are we pursuing equality because it is “fair”? And lastly, are we pursuing equality with violence?
I think at this point the biggest question for us is not “how to achieve gender equality for all?” but “what made us see each other as unequal at first?” “Are we advocating for equality and practicing such in our own personal and business relationships? Or are we still falling trap of this power dynamics ruled by violence against the self-the others-the market?” “Where are we including men and people from other gender identities in this conversation?” “Are we acknowledging, respecting, opening up spaces to hear their voices, allow them to share their experiences?” “Is equality including them?”
These are hard questions to answer, yes.
However, these are the most needed. Because if we don’t become aware of our own education, context, realities, views on ourselves and the world and we don’t expect others to do so as well, equality will be an illusion put in place by the same methods used to hold the patriarchal systems.
We will still be chained by violence only with a better and much prettier name.
Equality… on of them.
I welcome your thoughts and look forward to continue this road with you.
Thank you for being here.